MY WAY

5.09.2014

I have been getting some negative comments as to why I continued to blog. Some think I should focus on my family instead of blogging. Here's the thing, though that sounds like the right thing to do, it is not the healthy for me. I am 100% committed to my family, but I have to take care of myself too. I created Fashion Bananas almost 6 years ago; It's become a part of me, a part of my life. It's something that I enjoy because it takes my mind off  the hard times that I am going through. It's an escape. So with that said, if you don't support what I'm doing then just let it go and live your life the way you want to live it. Don't be heartless and post negative shit.  Here's what I wore last week to "escape" with my Kev. I'm so happy I finally fit into one of my favorite midi skirts!
Wearing: Asos cami | Asos cardigan | Alexa chung x Madewell skirt | J.crew Elephant necklace | Alexander Wang mules
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31 comments

  1. This is such a great evening date look for Spring!
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  2. Estás estupenda nena, esa falda es preciosa y te queda genial. Ánimo y espero que sigas cuidando a los tuyos estando así de fabulosa durante muchooos muchoooos años.
    Un beso.

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  3. How is what you do any different that a mom that works a typical 8-5? People are complete assholes hidden behind a user name. Keep doing your thing, girl. You look beautiful!

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  4. Please pay no mind to those jealous haters, we love your blog it is one of our faves for so many years. :) And I love that white skirt, so flattering.

    xx

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  5. Don't care what other people says or think...let them deal life problems with there on way....keep posting and doing what you realy like to do and what makes happy....you look great....

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  6. Beautiful, and what a lovely skirt!

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  7. Delmy,

    I love how open you have been recently. People can only understand if they have been in that situation. That doesn't mean they should hate though. The internet has taught me how stupid and wack a lot of people are. Keep flaunting your hot hair and hot clothes and taking care of your precious family. Guess there is no hater free internet space.

    Sophia

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  8. I've loved every way you have remixed this skirt, so very inspiring. I understand the need to blog despite tough times. No one has a perfect life and we all cope and deal with things differently. Stay strong!

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  9. Glad you didn't listen to the naysayers. Can't believe people feel the need to give "advice" to you on your blog without being asked.

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  10. That's awful you've been getting negative comments! I totally support you doing whatever it is that you want. To me it seems that you are totally dedicated to your family but also have other interests like blogging, and that is TOTALLY fine. Women can have more than one role in life and not have it be detrimental. Unfortunately there are still narrow minded people in the world. Don't take it to heart! And if you want, turn off blog comments. That's what I did for a time period on my blog when reading them would only drain me and take the focus off of my creativity.

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  11. I can't believe anyone would say that to you. It is very evident how much you love and care for your family, and your followers for that matter. I for one count myself lucky that you do continue to blog, I enjoy all your posts!

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  12. Listen......It's unbelievable how people think they have the right to tell you how to live your life. If this is how you escape, if this blog keeps you from completely breaking down, then do it. Some people are just miserable individuals.
    Well wishes for you and your mom from NYC. Make this the best Mother's Day ever.

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  13. Delmy,

    You look fabulous! Never stop blogging. You're a great inspiration!

    <3
    XOXO

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  14. This is coming from someone who LOVES you. I find you much more beautiful than Sincerely Jules and a lot of fashion bloggers. But personally, I find that your posts lack the effort that you used to put into them. Your posts are not frequent. Sometimes you go a week or more in between them. You have SO much potential, so much beauty and talent and I think a large part of your audience wants to see the old Delmy. We all get that you now have a son and that your mother is ill, we all pray for you and feel terrible for the tremendous stress that you are under. But I am sure I am not alone when I say that your posts lately just aren't as great as some of the posts you have done before. I totally understand you may not always feel up to dressing up and posing in front of a camera but do other kinds of posts. Review on new make-up products, tutorials, fashion and make-up hauls (like YouTube girls), your skin care routine, your night time skin care routine, your 'no make-up' make up routine, home tour or home improvement posts. Even lifestyle posts like: what I've learned about being a mother, top must have baby items, review different baby products. You can incorporate so many ideas and topics into this blog and draw in new audiences. SO many girls out there want to start blogging and even try to blog and don't make it. You have made it but I don't think you are living to your fullest potential. I hope you don't take any of this the wrong way but instead realize how great you are and can be. You are truly capable of SO much Delmy. Never forget that.

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  15. I love that you are able to blog and take care of your family. I think it's such a positive thing. It's not healthy mentally to not have an outlet. I am new to your blog but I absolutely love it and you! Your style is amazing and I'm super proud that you are staying positive plus your a new mommy! My hat's off to you my dear! Don't listen to all these negative people they are why this world is ugly....they are just trying to knock down people like you that are beautiful on the inside and out!

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  16. Hi Delmy,

    I've never commented even though I have followed your blog for years. I have been praying for you and your mom. Please be encouraged, I think it shows great strength and faith to keep living, as your mom waits on her miracle you know she wants that for you. Keep praying and keep living your life trusting that your prayers will be answered. By the way, you look amazing.

    Nakia

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  17. I am sorry that you have gotten negative comments. There some real mean people in this world with nothing better to do. Of course you need to take care of you. Keep blogging & you are looking great after just having a baby! xo

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  18. I commend you for your strength. People should mind their business and keep negative comments to theirself. But the world we live in tells people they have the right to say whatever they want. Keep blogging rather it be about fashion or just what your going through it allows the good people to send up prayera and you never know whose reading your words and how you may have touched them by being open and honest. They're just mad God didnt choose them to be a blessing to people.

    God bless you and your family!

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  19. Pay no mind to the haters. I can't believe some people have the audacity to attack you and your family. Shame on them!

    Lovely outfit. Keep doing you. I love your blog.

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  20. Some people are just mean and not understanding. I am so sorry that they left unsupportive messages. We all know that you are doing your best to your family, and we want you to be as happy as possible. Wish you the best! <3

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  21. Delmy, I love your "escape" OOTD :) I'm grateful that u r not going to rethink your blog, because there are some people that feel parenting means being a helicopter and you don't get to have a life for at least the next quarter century - good grief!

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  22. Hello
    I just would say "do what you like". Ignore bad comments - bad comments are the ones you don't like. There are still people who enjoy to visit your blog. After all, you do it for yourself. Just enjoy what you do.

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  23. As always you look beautiful. There are always going to be naysayers and sometimes it is hard to ignore hurtful comments. I totally understand why you continue to blog. It is a big part of you and good therapy to tap into what makes you happy. I do think this is the opportunity to add more topics to your blog that you didn't cover before.

    http://foodfashionandflow.blogspot.com

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  24. Wow, really? Those people have serious issues. You NEED an escape. I've been praying for you and your family as I have recently gone through something very similar. Keep blogging please!

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  25. I mean this with the most sincerity. "F**k those haters."

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  26. My three-year old daughter just beat cancer. You do whatever keeps you sane. Keeps you strong. Keeps you happy. You are allowed to smile through the hard times. Don't let anyone tell you anything different. God bless you and your family. You are doing a great job.

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  27. I am so sorry that you've gotten negative comments on your decision to continue to blog! I just wanted to let you know that I really admire your courage to stay true to your love for fashion while dealing with the craziness that comes with living life. I wish you all the best and a speedy recovery for your mom! I look forward to more posts! Keep it up!

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  28. I meant to leave a comment before, but I think I didn't do something right...sorry.

    Anyway, I love your blog, found it about a year ago! People always have something to say...it;s pure jealousy... I hope your mom is better and I look forward to reading your blog in the future!!!!

    Lucia

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  29. Oh, Delmy... I'm sorry to hear that so many heartless people exist. I always think that a person who has the time to make bad comments on someone else's life is just a person with a lot of time and nothing better to do. They simply don't have a life. Not a good one.

    I also practice the "making me feel better" mantra. No one has the right to judge why we do stuff. It's our own thing and, hell, we know we deserve it. You are right. Keeping yourself healthy (mind, body and heart) doesn't make you less concerned about your family. In fact, is what gives you strength to keep up your efforts to always be there for them, am I right? I know exactly how that is.

    How is your mom doing lately? Hope she gets well soon.

    Love,

    Monica

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